Unlock the Secret to Stress-Free Summer Vacation Planning Despite Divorce!

May 25, 2023 | J. Benjamin Stevens | Share:

Child with watermelon in swimming pool. Summer sun and water fun. Healthy fruit snack for kids. Tropical fruits in family vacation. Travel with children. Little girl on beach holiday.Has the thought of planning your summer vacation made you feel like you’re trying to untangle a knotted ball of twine? You’re divorced, or going through a divorce, and since you’ve got kids in the picture, the task seems even more daunting than ever before.

But what if I told you that, despite the bumps and twists of your journey, you could still craft a memorable and joy-filled summer for your kids and yourself? The key to it all? Mastering the power of understanding, cooperation, and, most importantly, advanced planning. So, how can we transform the twisted ball of twine that is your summer vacation planning into a smooth, straight line? Let’s dig in to discover what works best for most divorced families.


Plan Early, Plan Smart

The first step to a drama-free summer vacation is to start planning as early as possible. Initiate conversations with your co-parent well in advance of your planned departure. This gives you ample time to work out the details, consider each other’s schedules, and make any necessary changes or adjustments to accommodate needs in both homes. Plus, it’s a show of respect to your co-parent and it minimizes the likelihood of surprises down the line.


Keep Communication Clear and Consistent

Here’s a golden nugget of truth: clear and consistent communication is key to successful co-parenting, especially when it comes to planning vacations for either home. Be specific and timely with your notifications about your travel dates, destinations, and any other relevant details, such as methods of travel, flight schedules, accommodations while traveling, and certainly any unexpected travel delays that may cause deviations from the plan outside of your control.

Regular, consistent, and informative updates and check-ins from the child ensure that everyone is on the same page. And remember, it’s not about you or your ex, it’s about your child.


Understand Your Custody Agreement

Before you pack your bags, revisit your custody agreement. Be sure you’re clear on its stipulations related to travel, including any geographic restrictions, or required notifications. This isn’t the time for assumptions. Seek legal advice if there’s anything you’re unsure about.

If your travel requires certain travel documents to be secured or provided by both parents, the sooner you have those discussions with your co-parent, the better. If you are not able to agree, you will need to leave enough time to allow your attorney time to seek relief from the Court for you, if you feel your ex is unreasonably withholding such travel for the child.


Include Your Kids

This might seem obvious, but it’s worth mentioning – do what you can to include your children in the planning process. This doesn’t mean they get to call all the shots, but acknowledging their wishes and concerns can go a long way in creating a vacation that’s enjoyable for everyone, especially if they aren’t yet experienced travelers.

Also, allow your child to take pictures and pick out special souvenirs from the trip to keep at each home if they so choose. Childhood vacations often hold a very special place in a child’s heart and memory, so do what you can to make sure your child has happy memories to hold on to for a very long time.


Plan Around Your Kids’ Schedule

Keep your children’s schedules in mind when planning your vacation. Consider their commitments, such as summer camps or sports activities, and the timing of your co-parent’s vacation plans, too. The goal is to minimize disruption to their routines as much as possible, while also taking the opportunity to expose them to new things, new places, and making special memories.


Have a Backup Plan

Despite your best efforts, things might not always go as planned. Having a backup plan in place can save the day. Be flexible and ready to adapt to changing circumstances, no matter what they are, in order to avoid your child experiencing any stress over their summer plans.

Remember, a successful summer vacation isn’t about the perfect itinerary or the exotic destinations; it’s about creating lasting memories with your children. By understanding and implementing these steps, you can unlock a summer vacation that’s less about stress and more about enjoyment.


Final Thoughts

Now that you’ve got the secrets to planning a stress-free summer vacation with your kids, it’s time to put these strategies into action. Remember, even the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

If you’re facing any legal uncertainties, don’t hesitate to reach out. As a trusted family law attorney, I’m here to help you navigate the twists and turns of your co-parenting journey. Contact my office by calling (864) 598-9172 or by emailing SCFamilyLaw@offitkurman.com to schedule a consultation. Let’s work together to ensure your summer travel plans are built on a solid legal foundation. Because at the end of the day, your peace of mind and your children’s happiness are what truly matter.


If you’re in South Carolina, you can reach out to Ben Stevens today to discuss your specific situation. If you are not, Mr. Stevens is happy to provide a referral to a well-qualified attorney located in your state. 

Ben is a Fellow in the prestigious American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and the International Academy of Family Lawyers, and he is a Board-Certified Family Trial Advocate by the National Board of Trial Advocacy. He has represented parents in child custody and other Family Court cases across South Carolina for well over twenty-five years.

If you or someone you know is facing a child custody or visitation case, contact our office at (864) 598-9172 or SCFamilyLaw@offitkurman.com to request a consultation.


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Aggressive, creative, and compassionate are words Ben Stevens' colleagues freely use to describe him as a divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Stevens is a Fellow in the prestigious American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the International Academy of Family Lawyers, and is a Board Certified Family Trial Advocate by the National Board of Trial Advocacy. He is one of only two attorneys in South Carolina with those simultaneous distinctions. He has held numerous leadership positions in the AAML, and he currently serves as one of its National Vice Presidents. Mr. Stevens has a statewide practice and regularly appears all across South Carolina.  His practice is focused on complex divorce and child custody cases.

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