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Smart Home Devices and Domestic Abuse

Originally Posted 5/13/2019, no content changes.

Modern homes are increasingly powered by internet-connected devices, from speakers to televisions, from thermostats to door locks, from security cameras to baby monitors. For some, this so-called “smart” technology can make life a little more convenient. For survivors of domestic violence or abuse, however, it’s fast becoming a vector for physical and psychological torment.

The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) recently published an article about the myriad ways abusers are weaponizing smart home devices. AAML notes that such devices “are set up by one spouse/partner but used by both spouses/partners.” It’s a situation that can create an uneven—and, at times, terrifying—power dynamic when the couple splits up and the person who has moved out of the house “wishes to destroy the emotional or mental calm of the other spouse.”

In one example, an ex changed their partner’s alarm time on an Echo device from 7 am to 2 am. In another, a man spoiled his ex-wife’s food by switching off the refrigerator. Other reported incidents involve people surveilling their exes through speakers and TVs and turning up the heat remotely during summer months.

In some cases, abusers seek to damage not only the psyches of their victims but survivors’ credibility as well. An article in offers a horrific pair of anecdotes:

“Another abuser would repeatedly unlock a survivor’s home and car doors remotely. When the survivor tried to report it, the abuser petitioned the judge in their children’s custody case that this was a security issue he was worried about, making the survivor appear as an unfit mother.

Another abuser would unlock a survivor’s electronic front door, go inside and take just one item from her home at a time, like a bracelet or a pair of shoes. The survivor kept thinking she was losing things and, in some respect, her mind along with them. She knew reporting these missing items to the police without any proof of a break-in would sound outrageous.”

What can you do to protect yourself? First, make a list of all smart devices in your home and make sure you’re able to access and control each one. Change the passwords for every device as soon as a partner or spouse moves out and periodically thereafter.


If you suspect that someone is spying on you, harassing you, or tampering with your home, speak to your lawyer immediately. The attorneys of Offit Kurman’s Family Law Practice Group can help you protect your home and family and obtain logging information for later use in court.


Cheryl Hepfer | 240.507.1752

Cheryl Hepfer is a highly-regarded attorney who has practiced family law for more than 40 years. She has been rated by her peers and is listed in Best Lawyers in America and as a top lawyer in the Washingtonian, Bethesda Magazine, and Super Lawyers. She is past president of both the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and the International Academy of Family Lawyers.








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As a family law attorney, Sandra (Sandy) Brooks’ practice focuses on a wide range of aspects in regards to family law. She dedicates her time to assisting clients in domestic law matters including divorce, child custody and visitation, family mediation, spousal and child support, property division, and division of retirement benefits. Other matters that fall under her jurisdiction as a family law attorney include tax consequences of divorce, mediation, prenuptial and post-nuptial agreements, negotiating and drafting of separation agreements, domestic litigation, and post-judgment proceedings.