Three Tips to Ensure Your High Asset Divorce Does Not Equal a High-Conflict Divorce

October 7, 2021 | J. Benjamin Stevens | Share:

After watching “reality” TV shows like The Kardashians or The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, it’s no wonder that the general public believes that the more property or money you have, the more contentious and expensive a divorce will be. However, not every high asset divorce has to be that way. In fact, by following some of these tips, it’s possible to have a fairly smooth divorce even when there’s a lot of money or property involved.

What is a “high asset” divorce?

Typically, a “high asset” divorce is defined as any case in which the parties own over a million dollars in assets, whether in real estate, personal property, or cash. South Carolina is an “equitable distribution” state, and thus all assets that are determined to be marital are allocated between the parties before a divorce can be finalized by the Family Court. Logically speaking, one might think the more there is to divide, the more complicated the case can be, but that’s not always the case.

  1. Resolve the Terms of the Separation or Divorce Outside of the Courtroom

High asset divorces are more likely to become contentious brawls if and when the private details of a marriage (or the breakdown of the marriage) enter the public record. Therefore, when considering which attorney to hire, ask about his or her experience handling private details through out-of-court methods like pre-litigation mediation, early neutral evaluation, or arbitration.

If your spouse has also hired an attorney experienced with these methods of privately resolving disputes, the odds are more likely that your two attorneys can help guide you through the decision-making process about how your divorce, property division, and even the custody of your children can all be handled without ever having to file contested litigation.

In addition to the benefit of avoiding a judge issuing a decision about your life that you may not like, you will likely be able to protect yourself and your family from having personal information and sometimes embarrassing details of what led to the divorce from becoming fodder for gossip around town.

  1. Work with a Private Support Team of Your Choosing

Once the Family Court becomes involved with a case, the judge may order certain court-appointed professionals to work with your family. These professionals may be financial in nature, such as CPAs or forensic accountants, or they may focus on the psychological aspects of your case, such as family therapists or forensic evaluators for a child custody matter. Either way, depending on the facts of your case, you and your attorney may have very little input into which professionals are assigned to your case.

However, if you choose to work with your attorney to settle the aspects of your case outside of court, you and your spouse, along with your attorneys, have a chance to choose which professionals to use. This team can include therapists, CPAs, real estate appraisers, or even divorce coaches, for example, to help with the various aspects of your case, whether financial or emotional, thus keeping costs down and helping ensure private matters remain private.

  1. Understand How to Work with Your Attorney’s Office

If your goal is to keep your high asset divorce as uncontested as possible, find out how best to work with your attorney and his or her staff early on. For example, what is the best way to supply necessary documents to their office quickly and efficiently? Taking additional time to track down documents to provide to the other side could be misinterpreted as one party trying to hide something from the other, which could result in a party seeking the Court’s intervention much sooner than you may like.

Also, find out whether an Associate, Paralegal or both will be assigned to your case, as he or she can speak with you when your attorney is not available. This will help speed up the flow of communication between you and your legal team. As an added bonus, this will help keep your legal bills down, since they typically will have a lower billable hour than your lead attorney.

Lastly, when you receive communications from your legal team with deadlines, work closely with them to make sure those deadlines are met. Resolving high asset divorces outside of court involves a lot of trust on each side of the equation. Meeting deadlines and keeping promises is essential to the process and your ability to help your legal team meet those goals will go a long way in making sure your case gets resolved as privately and as cost-effectively as possible.


Ben Stevens has provided exceptional legal counsel and support to families throughout South Carolina for over twenty-five years, handling all matters of family law, such as high asset divorces, child custody cases, alimony modifications, and the like. We are well-equipped to handle all divorce and family law matters, no matter your circumstances. Contact our office at (864) 598-9172 or   to schedule an initial consultation.

Contact our office at (864) 598-9172 or to schedule an initial consultation.



Aggressive, creative, and compassionate are words Ben Stevens' colleagues freely use to describe him as a divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Stevens is a Fellow in the prestigious American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the International Academy of Family Lawyers, and is a Board Certified Family Trial Advocate by the National Board of Trial Advocacy. He is one of only two attorneys in South Carolina with those simultaneous distinctions. He has held numerous leadership positions in the AAML, and he currently serves as one of its National Vice Presidents. Mr. Stevens has a statewide practice and regularly appears all across South Carolina.  His practice is focused on complex divorce and child custody cases.

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