Establish the best child custody agreement for your family.

May 26, 2020 | J. Benjamin Stevens | Share:

The welfare of our clients’ children is paramount to us at Offit Kurman. In matters involving child custody and visitation, we are always sensitive to the needs of the children, and we work toward a resolution that will minimize the impact of litigation upon them. Our firm handles all aspects of child-related issues, including custody, visitation, child support, determination of paternity, termination of parental rights, enforcement and contempt actions, modification of prior Orders, and defense in cases involving the Department of Social Services. At the conclusion of each case, we do everything necessary to make sure our clients are equipped to prosper in their new lives.

Marital problems can be extremely difficult for the children. Do yourself and your children a great favor by not “poisoning the minds” of your children. Don’t dwell on your spouse’s faults! Realize from the beginning that children and visitation privileges are not tools for bargaining, and you should resist the temptation to use them as threats or attempts to gain leverage. Children understand much more than you may realize, and you should always consider their feelings and best interests when it comes to visitation and “family” matters.

What Can You Do to Increase Your Chances of Getting Custody?

In a hotly contested custody dispute, even if you are a good parent, you may not get custody of your children. Therefore, it is important that you do everything you can to increase your chances of getting child custody. Here are 8 ways that will improve the odds in your favor:

  1. Keep extensive documentation.
  2. Understand the law relating to child custody.
  3. Retain a good lawyer.
  4. Be prepared to spend a lot of money.
  5. Have a child custody evaluation done by a reputable professional.
  6. Emphasize the positive ways you’re a good parent.
  7. Behave well.
  8. Stay involved in your children’s lives.

What Steps Can You Take to Reduce the Pain and Expense During a Child Custody Case?

  1. Stay involved in your children’s lives.
  2. Talk to a licensed professional.
  3. Keep a journal.
  4. Keep your friends close, but don’t overburden them.
  5. Stay away from life altering changes.
  6. Try to resolve the most painless issues with the other parent.
  7. Don’t try to ruin the other parent.
  8. Imagine the process is complete.

Contact our office at (864) 598-9172 or to schedule an initial consultation.



Aggressive, creative, and compassionate are words Ben Stevens' colleagues freely use to describe him as a divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Stevens is a Fellow in the prestigious American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, the International Academy of Family Lawyers, and is a Board Certified Family Trial Advocate by the National Board of Trial Advocacy. He is one of only two attorneys in South Carolina with those simultaneous distinctions. He has held numerous leadership positions in the AAML, and he currently serves as one of its National Vice Presidents. Mr. Stevens has a statewide practice and regularly appears all across South Carolina.  His practice is focused on complex divorce and child custody cases.

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